In our modern search for peace, we often look toward structure, order, and control, forgetting the beauty of undefined living. We try to define what’s “right” and “wrong”, “good” and “bad”, beautiful and ugly, hoping that certainty and predictability will bring safety. But what if true liberation comes not from defining, but from un-defining? Not from grasping at answers, but from softening into the mystery of the unknown?
This was the core of a recent meditation teaching: that the very act of labeling and qualifying reality may be the beginning of our bondage, and that the path to Liberation starts with a radical shift in how we perceive and engage with the world.
The Trap of Control Begins with Definition
It’s a subtle thing, this tendency to define. It happens in milliseconds. We see a person or a situation, and our mind begins organizing it into our construct of reality: that’s good, this is bad. She’s kind, he’s selfish. That experience was a success. This one was a failure. Our mind’s need to categorize feels natural—almost necessary. But with every definition, we build walls around what we can accept, experience, or learn from.
Defining something as “beautiful” may seem innocent. But with that definition, we’ve also created a context for the opposite: that which is not beautiful. In doing so, we begin the slippery descent into preference, attachment, judgment—and ultimately control. We trap the moment in a box, sever it from its full essence, and cut ourselves off from a more liberated way of seeing.
When we define, we reduce. When we observe, we expand.
Creation Through Perception
We are creators—not just of art, businesses, or families, but of our entire perceptual reality. The way we interpret our world is a direct expression of our creative power. When we define something, we’re not describing objective truth—we’re describing our inner experience and projecting that experience outward.
The phrase “beauty is in the eye of the beholder” isn’t just poetic—it’s ontological. That which is beautiful isn’t in the object. It’s in the unique experience of the perceiver. And when we cling too tightly to a perception as fact, we lose access to life’s fluidity. We stop being creators and become controllers and consumers of life. And that shift has profound consequences for our ability to live freely and fully.
Duality is the Death of Liberation
When we live through duality—this or that, right or wrong, yes or no—we limit the wholeness and completeness of life. Our world becomes a battlefield of opposites, and we find ourselves constantly choosing sides. The moment we identify with one, we alienate the other. And in doing so, we deny ourselves access to the full spectrum of experience.
Take a look at our culture: political binaries, moral binaries, aesthetic binaries. We are deeply entrenched in a mindset that says, “To be for one thing is to be against another.” But liberation doesn’t live in opposition. It lives in openness.
Liberation invites us to step beyond the control and the binary, and into the accepted “is-ness” of life—the part of reality that just is, without our interference. In this space, we don’t need to judge. We don’t need to fix. We don’t need to control.
We just are. And so is everything else.
Security vs. Sovereignty
Our addiction to control is disguised as a longing for predictability and safety. We define, decide and organize because it gives us the illusion of security. But that false security comes at a cost. Every time we grip tightly to a label, a preference, or a role, we shrink the field of possibility. We squeeze the life out of life!
Liberation is not found in the tightest, most controlled version of ourselves. It is found in the expansion of self—through curiosity, receptivity, and the willingness to be surprised.
Tilopa, the Buddhist monk, once said: “Be like a hollow bamboo through which the universe can play its song.” If we clog up the bamboo with our definitions, our preferences, our fears—we silence the music. But if we remain open, the universe plays through us.
The Posture of Yes
A key insight shared in our meditation is the difference between saying “yes” out of obligation versus holding a posture of yes as a way of being. When you live from this open posture, life begins to align in ways that make the “yes” feel natural, coherent, and embodied.
But it’s a process.
At first, we may find ourselves both opening and resisting. A new opportunity arises, and a part of us leans in, while another part holds back. This is normal. It’s part of the transition from a life of control to a life of Liberation.
We’re learning to say yes to the unfolding of experience itself. And as we refine that posture, we begin to learn and notice that what enters our field more and more does align.
The question is no longer, “Is this right or wrong?” It becomes: “Is this aligned or not? Is there coherence here?”
When we live from that question, we soften the dualities and begin to live in energetic truth.
Saying No Isn’t Resistance—It’s Coherence
This doesn’t mean you become boundary-less. True Liberation includes the ability to say no—but not from fear, avoidance, or identity maintenance. A Liberated no is simply the recognition that something is not coherent. And it’s given without judgment.
Imagine the difference between rejecting something because it threatens your identity—and declining something because it doesn’t resonate with your wholeness.
One is fear. The other is sovereignty.
Liberation doesn’t mean we close doors. We accept every possibility as acceptable. We begin to see that in life all doors are always open. In this context, being Liberated means we are at choice to powerfully choose which doors to walk through, because they align with who we are at our essence. In this case “no” doesn’t exist. There’s only “yes” to what aligns from the colorful palette of isness that is life.
Liberation as Wholeness
Ultimately, Liberation is not freedom from something—it’s freedom into something. Into power. Into presence. Into wholeness.
The more Liberated you are, the more life and life-force energy you can hold. The more mystery you can engage with. The more perspectives you can entertain and engage in, without losing your center.
Liberation means you are no longer fragmented by conditioned definitions, roles, or rigid ideas of who you’re supposed to be according to the society, to your friends, family and community. You become whole because you stop amputating parts of yourself that don’t “fit” as part of the world. You learn to be in the world, but not of it.
And as you do, you become more powerful. Not because you control more—but because you release your need to control.
Meditation as Integration
After exploring these truths intellectually, in our meditation we moved into a guided neurosculpting meditation to integrate them somatically. This is where the lesson moved from idea to embodiment—from concept to experience.
The meditation began with grounding. Tuning into the body. Noticing tension. Letting go.
Then, through breath, we entered the present moment and allowed awareness to deepen. We explored comfort—where it exists, what it feels like. We engaged the imagination and invited playfulness into the practice.
Participants were asked to choose a word or concept—perhaps calm, ease, or joy—and imagine it as a color, a shape, a vibration. They were guided to feel that word in the body, to give it texture, to let it spread through the nervous system like dye in water.
This process rewires the brain. It creates new associations and activates embodied memory. And when paired with a physical gesture or anchor word, it becomes a resource that can be returned to again and again throughout daily life.
This is neurosculpting at work: not just imagining, but installing. Not just relaxing, but re-patterning.
Living the Undefined Life
The final invitation of this practice was to return to the world not as a knower, but as an observer. To resist the urge to define, label, or categorize. To approach the day with curiosity rather than conclusion.
What would it be like to walk through the world today without clinging to meaning? Without needing to prove or protect?
What would it feel like to meet life from your Liberated posture?
Try it. Play with it. Don’t strive for perfection. Just notice.
When you’re tempted to name something, pause. When you want to judge, breathe. When the old control patterns rise, smile. You’re not falling behind—you’re waking up.
Liberation is not a destination. It’s a posture. A process. A practice.
And the more you engage with it, the more you’ll feel what’s always been true beneath the labels:
You were never meant to be controlled.
You were made to be free.
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